You know, I didn't hardly think twice about getting a D&C...I just thought that is what you DID when it didn't happen naturally right away. And of course, I was sick (morning sickness) and so upset to have lost my baby.
The whole story is that I went in and had an u/s, there was a yolk sac and a fetal pole but no heartbeat was visible yet. The next week, I went in and had another u/s and, sadly, the sac had started to shrink significantly. The doctor told me to go home and that I would definitely miscarry. In that week, I also broke my leg and got Xrays, thinking that I was no longer pregnant. When, a week and a half later I was feeling VERY sick, I called the doctor. My hormone levels were abnormally high, in fact, he thought that I was farther along than the first measurements showed. This was mind boggling, though not COMPLETELY impossible, since our first (and correct) dates showed that I had conceived when DD was only 10 weeks old. It turned out that my hormone levels were high, even though I was miscarrying, because I had double babies and double hormones to start out with. But anyway, doctor said that if I was this sick and with such high hormones I should probably come in and have a D&C to get back to "normal".
The very scary thing is...I was just going to do it. It was my husband, on the morning of my appointment, who asked me to please get another u/s and make sure that it was really happening. I had SEEN the fetal sac shrinking, watched the doctor show me the measurements from the first u/s and then measure the second. And even without measurements I could see that where there had been the beginnings of a baby there was now only a very small round spot on the screen. I didn't WANT to see again, didn't want to have to go through the agony of seeing I wasn't pregnant on another u/s and so I really, truly, almost didn't ask for another u/s. Then, when I did, at the very last moment, I still almost backed out. The doctor had said okay, but he was sure that I was miscarrying. When I started to back down, thank God!, this doctor said absolutely no. He said that although he was sure, I had to be. And called in the u/s machine even though I was kind of embarrased and protesting at that point.
This u/s, on the day of the D&C, showed the very last speck of my son's twin. However, the doctor was really moving around, I guess to make sure that I wouldn't have any doubts. Then, he stopped and said he saw a shadow, it was probably nothing, but he wanted to go ahead and look at it from a different angle, on the abdominal u/s. Way, way, way up high, where you are not even supposed to be carrying the baby, he saw a fetus...exactly the size it should have been according to his first measurements on the twin. I was 8 weeks at that point and still had another agonizing week to wait to see a heartbeat. The fact that it wasn't visible at eight weeks was disheartening and the doctor warned me I wasn't out of the woods...but lo and behold, it showed up at the 9 week u/s.
I never had bleeding, spotting or cramping. I never actually miscarried...the twin just kind of reabsorbed. This actually makes it a little harder in some ways, if I hadn't had to get early u/s to date the baby...I would have never known about my son's twin. Kind of a creepy thought. The rest of my pregnancy was completely normal and Bjorn was born right on time at a whopping 9lbs 4oz!
Reading this site, I am beginning to believe that I MUST have a tipped uterus. I can't imagine why it was never noticed on the u/s's I had with DD (my doctor did one every single visit for us nervous first time moms) but it seems a likely thing. I mean, it was weird how far away from where he should have been my son was "hiding". I actually get upset now when I hear that someone I knew had a miscarriage and a D&C...I don't want to give women false hope, but I could never have one knowing my story!!!
Mom to Lily(5) and Bjorn(misdiagnosed miscarriage 4)