[b]Kahlo[/b], thank you so much for letting others know I responded to you by email.
[b]Karen[/b], I am so terribly sorry to hear that happened to you that way. It happens so often, to so many people that way... In fact, I had another miscarriage where I was not able to find the baby ( i think it was just too early) and therefore I had to have the whole miscarriage just like it was a period, into the toilet...very saddening. I know exactly how you feel. I know it's awful, and you just want to see the baby so badly. I remember dreaming three nights in a row that I was able to find the baby/babies (I was told I might have been carrying twins). But it didn't happen.
I am thankful to know that the pictures of Blessing have been able to help other mothers to know, and have some kind of confirmation that their babies had true significance, even at the earliest of stages.
I would love to recommend to you a book that I read which helped me tremendously in the grieving process- it is "I'll hold you in Heaven" by Jack Hayford. You can get it at amazon.com very affordably.
Here is a quote from the book:
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".....According to God's creative design, every unborn child has distinct spiritual significance. God knew all the days of your baby's life before any of those days (or moments) came to be. Before your baby was even conceived, God has a plan. Your baby was not a mere product of conception, a lump of tissue, or a life just not meant to be. Those words are painful to hear and devalue the sanctity of life, and they are untrue.
God never makes knitting mistakes when He knits life in the womb. From conception, your baby's life was truly human, and therefore is an eternal soul, a life ordained by God Himself..........
......As you seek validation for your little one's existence, I want to take you to God's Word. The Bible acknowledges and validates the significance of your child's brief life. It seems that thousands of years ago, God had already anticipated the problem of a world that would not acknowledge that life begins in the womb at the moment of conception. The Bible specifically describes and recognizes life during the first three months of pregnancy.
In Psalm 139: 13-16, we see that God is the One who created life in the womb. He knows intimately each life conceived, even as He knows you now. These verses strongly validate all stages of life, from the very moment of conception as the substance of life to the fully formed life ready for delivery into the world:
For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.
".......Life is God's creation, created to bring glory to Him. Although we can set up the circumstance for God to create a life, we do not make life happen; He does. Even before our babies are conceived, all of their days have been numbered. That means that each moment of our babies' existence here on Earth, whether in or out of the womb, whether for a few hours, days, weeks, or months, was planned and allowed by God. He created that life just as He had planned. There is no room for happenstance or accidence.
Allow these facts about your baby's brief life to bring you boldness in your grief as well as peace for your soul. I hope you will find incredible healing and peace as you are freed to face the facts about the life you carried. Your baby was the handiwork of God!........."[/quote]
I hope that you will find peace and comfort in your time of grief. Please let me know if there is anything I can do. (hugs)
