My baby (with pictures)

[bethany_marie]

When I miscarried in February, I took pictures of the amazing little baby in my womb. I wanted to share these pictures for others who may wonder what a baby looks like at the point that I miscarried (the baby was 6 weeks along when he or she passed away...I buried Blessing (baby's name) in our yard, among 5 weeping cherry willow trees.

Please do not click the images below if you think they might bother you. There is no blood or anything like that in the pictures, but I know how emotional this is, and some people have a harder time with these images than others.

This is a jewelry box, and a sandwich bag... the baby was the size of a lima bean. Very, very tiny:

http://www.preciousinfants.com/babyblessing111.jpg

Closeup of the baby:
http://www.preciousinfants.com/babyblessingtwo.jpg

In my hand:
http://www.jillstanek.com/archives/bethanyf.jpg

http://www.jillstanek.com/archives/bethanyd.jpg

The baby's hands, closeup:
http://www.jillstanek.com/archives/babyblessing2%20%282%29.jpg



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Bethany
My blog:
http://bethany.preciousinfants.com

[kat*]

Bethany, I am so very sorry for your loss but I thank you for sharing those amazing pictures. It was so beautiful to see your tiny baby and yet so heartbreaking to know how "real" our babies really look even that early. Thank you again and I am sorry for the loss of your little one.
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Kat
Mom of 5, dd Aimee 19,ds Nicolas 15,ds Kyle 10 and dd Ciara 8 and Ms Katie Rose!
Angel ds 9/1990 and Angel ds 5/2005
Kathleen Rose arrived at 9:22pm on October 24, 2006!
http://www.babysites.com/sites/katmarchand

[perciousmiracles]

Just brought tears to my eyes. And to think that some people say that they aren't babies at that stage of pregnancy. I would like to hear them say that after looking at how well formed your baby was at that early of your pregnancy. I'm sorry for your loss. (hugs)

[bethany_marie]

I am so thankful that these pictures can help someone. Thank you for your kind words.
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Bethany
My blog:
http://bethany.preciousinfants.com

[Chantilly]

These photos were amazing and brought tears to my eyes. I am 8 weeks pregnant and at risk for a miscarriage. I am still hopeful.

Thank you for sharing your photos. I will share them with my husband. The photos really makes you think.

God bless you.

[aileen]

Wow, those pictures are beautiful....and to think some doctors say its not a baby yet, and thousands and thousands are purposely killed every year!
Thank you so much for showing us your baby....I showed my husband, and he was in awe.
Thanks again and God bless!
Aileen

[bethany_marie]

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Bethany
My blog:
http://bethany.preciousinfants.com

[dana5]

I am so sorry for your loss!

Thank you soooo much for posting these pics. My second died at around the same number of weeks..(and in Feb actually). I had wanted to miscarry at home but needed a D&C and I really did want to know what he/she might have looked like.

Now I am crying at work but in a healing way..thank you for helping that pregnancy feel more real to me.

Blessing is a lovely name.
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Miscarriage #1 8/05 at about 12 weeks
Miscarriage #2 2/07 at about 8 weeks
Miscarriage #3 is on the way..

[bethany_marie]

Dana, I am so sorry for your loss too, and I am so thankful that this was able to help you in some way after your miscarriage. (((((((((((hugs))))))))))


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Bethany
My blog:
http://bethany.preciousinfants.com

[Mom In Waiting]

Bethany,
I know this is an older post, but I haven't been on the site for some time. First of all, let me say how sorry I am for your loss, I too know all too well the loss of such a tiny life. I lost 2 babies early on also, and then went on to carry my son to term. We thought all was well and tried again only to get to 17wks and not hear a heartbeat any longer (after hearing it 2x's prior). I m/c'd naturally at home (had wanted to go to the hospital, was waiting it out til Monday when my Dr. would be back in town, but the baby passed on Sat.) It was so horrifying to see my lil' baby even more defined since he was 17wks along and now seeing your precious lil' one makes me wish I had taken pics too. I have such a deep love/passion for photography, and I have visited your site w/ all your art/murals/photos and am truly thankful for your beautiful talent! The Lord has blesses you with so many wonderful gifts, including your beautiful babies. Keep up the great work and may the Lord continue to bless you. Thanks for sharing your pics here too.
p.s. you also have inspired me to try out your Once A Month Cooking from your site! What a great idea!!! Loved your site, you should post a link to it under the getting to know each other section of this site, I bet many would love to see all that you do! hugs and blessings, Cyndi
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Angel Baby #1 6/00 (10wks)
Angel Baby #2 1/01 (12wks)
Birth of Samuel Lee 7/26/02!!!!
Angel#3 "Jeremy" 11/04 (17wks)
Alicia Kathryn Born 7/6/06!!!!!

[bethany_marie]

Cyndi, thank you and (((( hugs)))),(((( hugs)))), and more (((( hugs))))

I am so sorry for your three losses.... I can't imagine how hard that must have been for you, especially your last one, with you being so far into the pregnancy. I hope that you have found some healing and comfort since then. Congratulations your your baby Alicia.


Thanks for the kind words about the Once a Month Cooking, and other things. I may just post something in the Getting to Know you forum when I get a chance.

I hope you have a wonderful day! (hugs)
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Bethany
My blog:
http://bethany.preciousinfants.com

[Lovinmom]

Bethany,

I am so sorry about your loss. My prayers and thoughts go out to you as you heal from this. Thank you so much for sharing these pictures. I think this will help many. It always amazes me how tiny these babies are at 6 wks. It is no wonder that many go misdiagnosed as miscarrying. Unfortunately, some of the diagnosis are correct and babies do miscarry. I do think there is healing and closure going through the experience that you did. I wish I had done that myself.

Thank you again for sharing. I look forward to visiting your web-site. You are truly gifted in photography.

Take care!

Lovinmom
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3 angel babies in Christ's loving arms/ one possible misdiagnosis
45 yr. mom to boy twins 3 yrs., dd 16 yr. and 7 yr. Baby Michael Josiah born 6/23/08
This post for educational purpose. For diagnosis, treatment, and advice, consult a doctor.

[bethany_marie]

Thank you so much, Lovinmom... and thank you for stopping by my website also. I have posted your story on my blog, hope you don't mind! I thought it was adorable.
http://bethany.preciousinfants.com
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Bethany
My blog:
http://bethany.preciousinfants.com

[Lovinmom]

How fun Bethany to see that. My daughter is now 5 yrs. old and still calls my bras "milks". It is so funny. She even has here own undershirt that she calls "milks". She will not wear her clothes without it because she wants to be like her mom and big sister who wear "milks". We are enjoying more funny things from my twins. I really like your web-site. How fun it is!

Have fun!

Lovinmom
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3 angel babies in Christ's loving arms/ one possible misdiagnosis
45 yr. mom to boy twins 3 yrs., dd 16 yr. and 7 yr. Baby Michael Josiah born 6/23/08
This post for educational purpose. For diagnosis, treatment, and advice, consult a doctor.

[goldline]

oh wow.. I am not sure what to say, when I saw the pictures I thought "mine is 8 weeks and 5 days" and I wonder how he/she looks like.
I don't know what to do with my baby.. I don't want to flush it down the toilets... I don't own my house so I can't bury my baby either.