So things didn't turn out well for me
I had my D&C yesterday at 9w4d, but the good news is that all went perfect and I only have minor pain and almost no bleeding so far.
After my hCG levels dropped and a final scan before the procedure showed a shrinking empty sac, things were more than clear to us all. I feel I have done everything possible, I consulted 3 different obgyns, 1 doula and had 3 bloodtests and 6 scans in total. I just couldn't stand the nerve-wrecking wait any longer, so the D&C has given me closure. It was really quick and painless, I was put to sleep for 45mins and when I woke up I felt no pain at all, in fact, my arm where the anaesthesist pumped in the fluid hurts more than my abdomen! Despite my retroverted uterus which has a higher risk of perforation everything went without complications. I am not even taking pain meds any longer less than 24h after the surgery, and the bleeding has almost stopped, it's only very light spotting now, like the very last day of a period.
This is all very sad but after the D&C, I am ready to move on and try again.
Despite a negative outcome, this forum has helped me so much to get through this. So thanks for all your great stories, your kind words and encouragements. Hugs to you all