My bitter sweet story

[MrsCK]

I had my Mirena (IUD) removed on July 15 and got my BFP on August 12. My first u/s was scheduled for Sept 9, when I was "supposed" to be 7w6d, but when I got there and the ob did the scan, we couldn't see anything but an empty sac. The doctor pointed out that my uterus was tilted (backward) and that it might have been the cause for the empty sac. I was told not to worry and made an appointment for 2 weeks hence (which was today, Sept 23).

Then a few days later, I started spotting and by Wednesday I had a slight bleed and was on bed rest. By the weekend things cleared up and I returned to work on Monday Sept 15. By 1pm I was in a meeting when I just felt a sudden gush and I ran to the bathroom and I was bleeding very badly. Horrendous amounts of gushes with clots and I cried and cried while I phoned a friend who took me to my ob. When I got there the doctor did a scan and we saw a tiny blob with a heartbeat with a massive amount of bleeding towards the left. After that I was put on bed rest for the rest of the week until the bleeding/spotting stopped by the weekend.

I had my follow up appointment today which was supposed to be the 2 week follow-up after the empty sac but then the follow-up from the bleed and we saw a very healthy 10w foetus with a heartbeat of 180b/m.

What is clearly visible though, is an empty sac above this baby with fluid to the left of the baby, which the doctor said, shows that there was another little baby that sadly lost the fight and by all probability, that was the heavy bleeding I had last week.

It is a bit of a bitter sweet. To be happy about this life that survived but my heart also aches for the other angel I've lost and will never know.

To those ladies waiting anxiously for another scan after an empty sac early on, don't loose hope. And pray, a lot. Good luck to those waiting.

[shelley75]

first of all congrats on your healthy bean....but it really must be a tough time for you with all sorts of emotions....i am sorry about the little bean that never made it....big hugs...

shelley

[Kay]

Congratulations on seeing your little one. What an awesome thing.

Your story is an important one here. I've talked to other women with similar stories. Fortunately, their doctors didn't push D&C during the miscarriage or they turned it down. Many pregnancies start as twins and when doctors rush a D&C due to bleeding and cramping, I wonder how many 'hidden' twins are lost. My guess, honestly, is quite a few.

Concentrate on that beautiful little baby of yours. I am really so happy for you.