My husband had been trying to get pregnant for almost a year when I discovered that I was pregnant. About six weeks in, I had my first checkup, everything was normal. However, about a week and a half later I began to spot some and was having lower back cramps, and since I had previously had a miscarriage about five years earlier, I called my doctor.
He told me that he thought I was having another miscarriage, and that I needed to have an ultrasound. I was freaking out, but the ultrasound showed a beautiful baby with a heartbeat, so I calmed down some. My doctor had me keep coming in every other day to monitor my HCG levels.
A few days later, they called me and told me that my levels were not rising as much as they should, and that they still thought I was having a miscarriage. At this point I was still very upset, the doctor was recommending a DNC and explaining the symptoms of a miscarriage. At that time I didn't have the internet, so I was reading book after book.
I mentally talked to the baby, and told the baby that if he/she wanted me to be his/her mommy, that he/she needed to hold on tight because I would love him/her so much. I took a few weeks off of work.
Days went by, I was still spotting some but it had subsided. So far, my pregnancy was progressing just like it should. At 12 weeks I breathed a sigh of relief, the worst was over.
Needless to say, I have a beautiful 3 year old daughter. At no point did I fully believe that I was going to lose her. I never believed the doctor. Probably every symptom I was having was normal, I just blew it out of proportion because I had the miscarriage before, and thought I was high risk. I am pregnant again, 8 weeks now. I have no symptoms this time around, aside from an increase in appetite and sore boobs. When the ultrasound technician did a TV ultrasound, she said that she saw a sac but no baby, and said that I probably didn't get pregnant when I thought I did. That kind of upset me, I was there, she wasn't. I know exactly when I got pregnant. I ignored her. The fact that I have a tilted uterus probably made it more difficult for her to find the baby. I am not going to freak out and stress myself more, because I know that not every pregnancy is the same and just because you spot a little doesn't mean that you are going to lose the baby. I am so thankful that I didn't go ahead and have the DNC. Never never do that unless you are 100% certain that there is no hope. Remember stress isn't good for a pregnant woman. Unless you are bleeding and cramping heavily, you are probably having a normal pregnancy. Sometimes doctors are quick to diagnose a miscarriage. Always trust your gut.