The wait is almost over

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The wait is almost over

Postby LilMama » Thu Dec 31, 2009 5:26 am

Hi everyone,
A very dear friend gave me the link to this site and I'm so happy that she did. My husband and I have tried for the past two years to get pregnant and finally got our miracle on December 2nd with my positive HPT. I was shocked b/c I had been very sick for weeks with cold, sinus infection etc. However I embraced the news and was beyond thrilled. We have told everyone since we waited so long for this news and it just seemed like a great thing to do. I'm having second thought about it now b/c on December 23rd I discovered that I was spotting very faint brown and only when I wiped. I relaxed as much as possible with a 7.5yo and a 4yo but my spotting stayed for a week total. I worried through the holidays and tried to put on a happy face as much as I could. I decided to go to the ER on the 26th and was basically told very little other than to go home and wait to see if it got worse. And they gave me an u/s date for the 29th. I went in and they proceeded as usual but the tech said she could only see the gestational sac and the yolk sac and she said it looks like my dates were wrong. I don't know but after TTC for two years and being SO in tune with my body I'm just sort of losing hope for viability this go around. I know when my period was, I know when I ovulated ... so how can my dates be nearly 2 weeks off? I had a blood draw the same day as the u/s and will have my second one today. Now i just sit here and wait and feel miserable not knowing. I still feel pregnant, starting to look pregnant.... but am I?
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Postby LilMama » Thu Dec 31, 2009 9:27 pm

wow.. the support is underwhelming..
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Postby meyvalian » Thu Dec 31, 2009 9:36 pm

Lilmama, looks like there's only the two of us here today!
Happy New year's Eve!
Don't give up hope yet, if you're so attuned with your body I'd say wait to prove the dr wrong.
Yesterday a very unnerving nurse pratictioner told me that my 6.6 weeks baby has a slow heartbeat and started pushing for a D&C.
I feel she's totally wrong since today I can barely eat because of my sickness, far worse than yesterday.
Prayers coming!
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Postby aileen » Thu Dec 31, 2009 9:37 pm

Hi,
First off I want to say sorry that no one has posted a reply to your question....its usually very busy on this forum, but its been quiet for a few weeks due to the holidays.

How far along do you think you are from your dates?
I have read many times on this forum of babies that seem to just catch up...some women have tilted uterus' and other babies might just be a little slower to develop in the beginning.

The brown spotting is not too worrisome...I spotted badly with all of my boys.....has it gotten worse?

Good luck with everything and happy new year!
Me (30) DH (30)
DS (6 years), DS ( 4 years), DS (2 years), DS (3 months)
4 Early Miscarriages, and 1 Stillborn twin (march 2010)
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Postby LilMama » Thu Dec 31, 2009 11:15 pm

Thanks for your responses ladies. I'm sorry if I was snappy before... it's just been so incredibly stressful this past week and a half. :*( I am 8 weeks along and by the u/s measurements that I had two days ago they said 5w6days. But.. I was also told during my last pap about three-four months ago that my cervix deviates to the right. Not sure if that is the same as tilted uterus or not but it's not normal just the same. I have all my symptoms still too which makes me want to hold out hope and scared to at the same time.
I started spotting faint brown on the 23rd and only when I wiped and then I have had NOTHING at all for the past 3 days now. And I have yet to cramp or feel any pain of any sort. They said at my second blood draw today that my numbers rose but did not double, and then they didn't imply that there was any hope whatsoever but rather gave me "my options." B/c of this site I have opted to allow things to occur naturally if they are going to b/c I'm terrified that my baby is fine and a D&C would end an otherwise healthy child. I won't believe totally that this baby has NO chance until I see it for myself.

Thanks again ladies... I appreciate your support.
Oh.. and the doctor mentioned something about my numbers being around 37, 000 but I am NOT 100% sure on that as most of what he said past "non viable" was a blur.
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Postby meyvalian » Thu Dec 31, 2009 11:25 pm

Don't worry, talking about snappy you should have heard me this morning talking to that poor advice nurse...
Best wishes and hugs to you and baby!
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Postby LilMama » Fri Jan 01, 2010 11:58 pm

Thanks hon. :)

I am still sitting here waiting and have made it to day four with no spotting, and all pregnancy symptoms in tact. I refuse to give up hope. Sometimes doctors are wrong and the fact that I haven't see anyone who specializes in obstetrics yet makes me have hope that this is going to have a happier ending. My fingers are crossed that's for sure. I'll keep you all posted.
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Postby meyvalian » Sat Jan 02, 2010 12:23 am

You're right Lilmama.
I still think that our instincts in early pregnancy (and beyond) are far more valuable than tests and science.
With my first son's pregnancy there were more than one occasion in which the doctors were puzzled, but I felt the morning sickness (or the thirst and my waist size!!!) increase and told the doc that everything was fine. I had a great ob/gyn then who actually listened!

Best wishes for you and baby bean.
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Just a roller-coaster ride......

Postby Hareira » Sat Jan 02, 2010 9:39 am

Good Morning Ladies,

I have been lurking in the background for a few days, and wanted to introduce myself. I feel blessed to have found this site. I am sure I am on the verge of my 5th miscarriage, the last one being two years ago. I am originally from the UK where I had two misscarriages before having my eldest son (thinking about the symptoms, they were probably chemical in nature as they ended in days). Here in America, I had a miscarriage before my second son (now 5) again, after research the symptoms would appear to be chemical, red bleeding two days after test. The blighted ovum syndrome darkened my door two years ago with a pregnancy that lasted 13 weeks and resulted in an emergency d & c due to severe bleeding that nearly ended my life. This time around, I had a positive pregnancy test on Christmas Day and I am now still riding that roller-coaster ride of emotions. On December 27 I began the dreaded brown spotting (an exact replica of my last miscarriage). I visited my gynaecologist (I still use the UK spellings!!), who sent me for blood levels My HCG on December 28 was 4,088 and I was scanned on December 29 (vaginal). From my dates (and theirs) I was 5w 4d in gestation. I feel the Techs must all graduate from a similar school, as I have found them (all but one), cold and cruel. Well, to cut a very long story short and not bore you ladies, she could see only a sac and after calling the doctor (a possible yolk sac). I was told to return in two weeks. This has been the most horrible Christmas period ever. Every waking moment I concentrate on pregnancy symptoms (are they still there???), every toilet visit is fraught with dread - gosh how many times must we stare down the loo with baited breath, has "the end" begun. I am mentally exhausted and just wish this would end (I know this sounds terrible). The uncertainty is horrible. I guess I am not good with grey areas, I just want an answer but mother nature is never black and white. This morning I feel nothing, no symptoms at all. I have had vague nausea in the past but nothing now. I will go and have my blood done today just for the sake of documentation. From my research, I have read that the BO afflication rarely strikes twice, well I guess many of us here sadly know that statement to be incorrect.

Ladies, you have provided me with strength throughout this holiday period and I shall keep you up-dated. I plan on seeing a reproductive specialist this time around as I really must know why this is happening to me again.

Happy New Year to all,

Hugs,

x Shereen x
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Postby LilMama » Sat Jan 02, 2010 11:51 am

meyvalian wrote:You're right Lilmama.
I still think that our instincts in early pregnancy (and beyond) are far more valuable than tests and science.
With my first son's pregnancy there were more than one occasion in which the doctors were puzzled, but I felt the morning sickness (or the thirst and my waist size!!!) increase and told the doc that everything was fine. I had a great ob/gyn then who actually listened!

Best wishes for you and baby bean.


thanks hon. The first doctor I saw in Emerge just called to check in on me and ask how I was doing. I explained that I felt perfectly pregnant still and had NO spotting going on five days now. :)8 I also asked him to give me numbers from both BETA's and he said the first was 37, 000 and second was 42, 000 so.. they didn't double but did go up and he said that it IS possible that my dates are off and that's why there was no fetal pole just the sac and yolk sac. I don't know... I am almost positive of my dates but is it still possible that this baby will live? I mean.. it could be a slow grower/riser?? IDK but right now that's ALL I have to hold onto.
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Postby LilMama » Sat Jan 02, 2010 11:52 am

Shereen,
Honey I'm so deeply sorry for what you have and what you are going through. I wish I could take away all your hurts and make this baby perfectly whole for you. You're in my thoughts and prayers hon.
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Postby meyvalian » Sat Jan 02, 2010 2:53 pm

Shereen, praying for you!!!

Lilmama, hang in there!! Good luck!!!
I think people were getting pregnant and having babies far before doctors took over the field and sonograms were invented. And probably mothers were less terrified at the time... it could go right or wrong but there wasn't this terrible wait.
I had my blood test yesterday but today ob/gyn is closed for the weekend so I have to wait until monday for results.
Hubby is away for work and I have been so scared all night that something could happen with him 6 hours away that I constantly woke up...
:)8 BUT this morning I threw up for the first time (it was a daily appointment with my first son) so I'm positive and praying!!! :)8 :H :H :H :H :H :H :H :H :H :H :H :H :H :H :H :H :H :H :H :H
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Thank so much....

Postby Hareira » Sun Jan 03, 2010 7:49 am

Thank you ladies for your thoughts and prayers. Yesterday I didn't feel anything anymore and decided to go the ER to at least know. The uncertainty is terrible, the constant watching and monitoring. We have all been through so much already. Well, my levels from Dec 29 (4088) are now 13300, not quite doubling but adequate I am told (at least 60%). Far more experienced people than than (like the moderators of this wonderful site) have correctly pointed out that these numbers really only cause worry. I had another scan and they saw a yolk sac, first scan really was not sure. I measure at 5.2 days by the ER machine. I have a dreadful cold right now (caudght from my little one!!) so am feeling really under the weather. I think of you ladies before I close my eyes and pray that your little ones make their way into this world, for they are so wanted and cherised already. Gosh, I am crying again. Well, that's one symptom....I am very emotional!! Keep me posted girls, I will up-date with my progress (or lack thereof) very soon my friends.

Hugs,

x Shereen x
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Postby Lovinmom » Sun Jan 03, 2010 7:04 pm

I still think there is hope since your hcg levels are pretty high. I wouldn't go by the doubling, etc.. I think that just causes worry. You are still early! The fact that you progressed to a yolk sac means that there is progress. If there was no yolk sac, then I would be worried. As far as fetal pole, the yolk sac is a part of the fetal pole. Medical terminology does not like to acknowledge that there is an actual baby until they can physically see the heart beat which to them, will then mean a fetal pole. In a museum exhibit called Body Worlds, I viewed live fetal poles and yolk sacs. They were the same thing! At 5 wks, you have a live human being. The heartbeat most likely is present if the baby is okay, but at this early of weeks, it is not always seen by ultrasound. It is SO incredibly tiny, that it is SO hard to see. That is why many doctors who are very knowlegeable about this, will not even do an ultrasound until the minimum of 8 wks. One of them that I know of, teaches at a prestigious university. She said that as long as there is no bleeding, fever, or severe cramping, then a woman can safely test out the diagnosis. I think many doctors are ignorant of this fact and cause much unneccesary worry for women. It is just not right. While there is always the possiblity of miscarriage, there is also the possibility that this baby is okay.
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The beginning of the end.....

Postby Hareira » Mon Jan 04, 2010 2:32 pm

Hi ladies,

How are you both doing? My spotting has changed in color - its now a dark magenta (not good). These symptoms are becoming identicle to the last miscarriage (two years ago). I am to see my doc on Thurs and will ask to be referred to a specialist. I must now begin to accept that this pregnancy was just not meant to be. I shall have my hcg repeated tomorrow and will post the same as soon as I have it. First, 4088, second 13,300 (4 days apart). I am sure my next levels will be lower.

I hope you guys have better news to report.

You are in my thoughts,

x Shereen x
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Postby LilMama » Mon Jan 04, 2010 5:47 pm

Well guess what???

I saw my nurse practitioner today and told her every detail of what has been going on during the holidays. she was baffled that they told me my baby was not likely viable and said that my numbers though not doubling were well within great range for gestation age. So.. she did the doppler and lo and beyhold ...166bpm's!!!!! You couldn't hardly hear a thing but it was registering and it certainly wasn't my own hb at that rate!! So tomorrow is my follow up u/s and I fully expect to see my healthy baby growing in there.

The np called me a short time ago and said that she just received my u/s report from the hospital and she said it was by no means full of gloom and doom and she didn't know why they would tell me such news and put me through the torment. Likely just b/c they were all ER doctors and not actual ob's who specialize. Whatever the case ... I just don't care. The only thing I care about is that I'm still pregnant and my baby has a heartbeat! GOD IS GOOD!!!!!
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Congrats Lilmamma!!!!

Postby Hareira » Tue Jan 05, 2010 3:53 pm

I am so glad for you :)8 I have some news too! Today I had another u/s and we found the heartbeat (125bpm). The CRL length was 3.9mm and this was dated at 6w and 1 day. I am numb really. I am still spotting (brown again) but they just seem to think its old blood making its way out. The tech could see no evidence of bleeding around the sac or in the uterus. Dear Lord, its been (and still is going to be) a long road. Right now we can just enjoy the moment of knowing the our little ones are alive and kicking and pray they remain that way. This site and its members have been a blessing in what is such a lonely isolating time. I shall keep you all posted with developments and pray that we all deliver strong healthy babies in 2010 8)O
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