Had a miscarriage last year, worried bc I am pregnant now!

[MyAva]

I am reading all these stories and they are making me cry something terrible.. the happy and the not so happy ones.

I had gone to visit my family in NY for a month and half only to return to my family in Germany (Army post) to be told that the baby had apparently stopped growing at 16 weeks (I was then 23 weeks). I had no miscarriage symptoms whatsoever. Now that I have read some of your stories, I wonder if I was too quick to accept what the doctor said without checking to make sure. I have not been as diligent as everyone else in keeping track of hcg levels and other info and I wonder if my ignorance is what allowed me to have a miscarriage. Is there anyway to even go back and see if maybe they doctor did not carefully follow through? He never based the miscarriage on blood work just the ultrasound.

Now I am pregnant and the very same doctor has just told me on Friday 2/5/2010 that I WILL be miscarrying. This doesn't sit well with me at all. I guess because it is hard to believe that I can be miscarrying with no signs at all. I have a beautiful healthy 2 year old boy who I had no problems with when we were living in the States. Now I am wondering if the German OB is just not thorough enough for me. I am sad, scared, angry, lost, and confused about everything and I just need to know what should I ask, what do I need to look for to confirm this is true? I do not plan on having a D & C this time around. I would rather let nature play its course.. but I am going to our health clinic on post tomorrow and I want to make sure I have them check everything they can to see if maybe my German OB missed something. If anyone has any suggestions as to what I should ask, please let me know!
Thanks.
for a miracle....

[Kay]

Why do they say you are miscarrying? How far along do you believe you are? How many ultrasounds have you had? I am a firm believer that one ultrasound is not enough to diagnose a miscarriage in the first trimester unless there is a serious complication such as molar or ectopic pregnancy. Also, a blighted ovum should not even be suggested before about nine weeks.

(((hugs)))

[MyAva]

Thank you, Kay.

I've only been told that the baby hasn't grown from 7 to 9 weeks. I only had two ultrasounds (both separate) vaginally. I noticed he did not tell me if there was a heartbeart nor did he do any blood work to confirm my worst fears. This the second time with this guy and I am just beginning to wonder if he is just saving himself the time of doing extra work to ensure that he is right. I plan on going on post to request a second opinion. Unfortunately pregnancies are handled on the German economy and I am afraid no one will take my request seriously. I just want to be sure this time. At least if I am wrong I did my best to ensure it is a correct diagnosis this time around.

[Kay]

Don't be afraid to ask for details. Now, question for you...did they see the baby at both ultrasounds or just the gestational sac?

[MyAva]

Yes, they saw the baby. But no heartbeat. My 'second opinion' visit proved that the other doctor was right but I got a little bit more information about it from her than my male doctor. I also found out that my iron was very low and they told me that that would not have caused the miscarriage but I am still sad at maybe I could have done something if i knew my stats.

I was given the tablets to help induce the miscarriage. I believe my body has passed the baby now but I will go in for a follow-up in a few days. I am still very happy I found this website because it is comforting and the support is amazing. Thanks.