I wanted to share my story because I can't begin to express how grateful I am of this message board. On Oct 12 (7w2d), I had a transvaginal ultrasound at my obgyn's office and they could not find a heartbeat. I was first seen by a midwife I have never met before who asked if I had struggled with fertility and I said yes and she rudely stated "I'm a midwife I only deal with low risk pregnancies" and proceeded to get the nurse practitioner I normally see. When the CNP showed up she also could not get a heartbeat from the ultrasound. She then told me that the pregnancy is 100% not viable especially since I am so confident with my dates due to me having to take Femara and a trigger shot. She stated I had three options: 1) natural miscarriage- which can prolong the horrible experience for weeks 2) shots or pills which may cause hemorrhaging 3) D&C which is highly recommended in and out procedure that only really takes 5 minutes. She also stated that miscarriages are generally due to a genetic abnormality and most likely the fetus had "downs". I was panicking and basically signed the paperwork for the D&C and had an appointment scheduled for 24 hours later. I felt that she was nothing more than a D&C sales person.
A few hours later, my husband and I went to lunch and I couldn't get myself to order margaritas even though I am under impression that my baby stopped developing and I had my D&C appt the next day. My husband found this site and we started questioning our decision to schedule the procedure so quickly. I called the office and I insisted on an hcg test before making a definite decision because I was not 100% convinced of the miscarriage. My beta that day was 78,000 then I had it taken 2 days later on Oct 14 and the value went up to 96,000. The office scheduled another ultrasound for me the following day but I stated that I decided to go to another practice for a second opinion.
I went to another practice today and this time they had the sweetest sonographer than greeted us. I told her not to expect much as they did not find a heartbeat 2 days ago and we're just here fearing the worst. She was so compassionate and told me that even if that was the case I should not have been pressured to do the procedure so quickly. LOW AND BEHOLD when she did the ultrasound the heartbeat was there at 153 bpm and the fetus was measuring at 7w2d and I am 7w5d based on my last period. I felt like I was going into the funeral and the deceased raised up from the casket.